So I had been thinking a little bit, and though you guys can't exactly see it very much seeing I'm like my own individual entity online, but offline, a lot of people have felt mine and
is practically the perfect relationship. I mean, I talk about him once in a while (or at least mention him in passing), but it hardly indicates how we are when we're together in the physical plane.
I guess to summarize: Me and him have been dating for 5 years, starting in high school. I happened to find the group he was hanging out with because I recognized friends in that group, but of course hadn't known James and a couple others yet. Turned out me and him shared a lot more friends than we thought, but it took us two years in order to even know of EACH OTHER. Long story short, we went to both proms, had problems between him and my parents, but the two of us never get into full-blown arguments. We can disagree on a lot of things, but we never get to yelling at each other or insulting the other. And now, we have been full-time living with each other for over a year and a half, not just over the summer. We plan on getting (officially) married once we get out of college, but we already see ourselves like a married couple.
NOW THEN. There's obviously little nuances and details about the relationship other people likely see that I haven't discussed that have them saying we're like a perfect couple. And of course, then the people who ask us how we did it, and wish they could get into a relationship like ours. I had been somewhat more seriously considering actually writing some kind of book about it. Before, I was writing something similar; though a lot more ranty, which makes it more of a "Ha, people who do that are stupid!" rather than "holy crap I have this trait, how do I fix this?" To seem more professional, it's better to make it a bit less accusatory so it doesn't just piss people off. That wouldn't be as helpful. Even if they need that wakeup call.
But my problem is that I'm not sure I'm such a good source of information when it comes to good relationships. I mean yeah, I COULD write a whole damn book on the subject, but am I really a trustworthy authority? I feel like half the reason me and James got together was we just got super lucky and happened to run into each other and were both very compatible. I'd likely do tons of research anyway just to get good statistics. Hell, maybe even start a few surveys.
If I do really do this, I'll try to make it more inclusive not just of romantic relationships, but platonic ones as well. Idk, any suggestions, if I ever do write it?
Question time! What tips can you give in looking for a relationship?
Yo'run: Don't force it. It'll come naturally if it's truly meant to be.
Orle: ..... Uuuuuuh.... >_>
Zakk'ra: Patience is key. It's better to foster a good friendship beforehand than to take things too quickly.
Strilelli: Always keep them happy! A relationship is nothing without happiness!
Usual usual. Which aliens do you think have actual dating advice and which could use some?
Or just talk about your day. Either or.